“Relationships fail when there is criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and avoidance.”
This study was done where researchers watched couples interact. They would make a prediction about whether a relationship would survive.
The four factors they noticed that predicted relationship failure are:
You’ve all been there. You observed a couple interact. As you drove home, you speculated to yourself or your partner, “well, that won’t last long.”
It was just a feeling you had. But, when you think about it, you probably saw criticism, contempt, defensiveness or indifference. They doom relationships.
PalletOne CEO Howe Wallace
Since 2005, he has been sharing his thoughts on the organization, leadership, and communication in an online daily note to teammates called Daily with HQ.